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Fuck Your Censorship (and other bullshittery)

Hello, my name is Manda, and I consume entertainment.

Me on my bullshit again – Photo by 任力 on Pexels.com

All kinds.  Movies, books, video games; it’s all there.  My tastes are right up there with the psychologically fucked up and the sound of blade slicing through flesh like butter and resisting at the bone, unrelenting until it splinters.

I’m dark.  I would say I was raised that way, but my other siblings turned out just fine.  I think some of us were just born to see the beauty in things most otherwise shy away from.  And that’s okay.  You can bask in every Lifetime movie known to man and live to cry at every theatrical adventure.  You can read a raw romance novel and have your mind flooded with every euphemism for penis known to man and lose yourself in fantasies of Fabio and sea-side infidelities.

I’m getting off topic.  Our tastes are not what I want to talk about here.  You know, in case you couldn’t tell by the title.

Censorship.  It’s such a disgusting word to me.  It takes something that’s raw and true and pours sugar all over it to make it seem better than what it actually is, what it was meant to be.  It takes something horrible—let’s say a dead body found on the side of the street—and covers it up with a few choice flowers.  But the people say, “Oh, I don’t see the dead body, but something sure does stink here,” so censorship digs in elbow-deep to the rotting guts of the truth, just to get to the soil underneath that, so they can plant a god damn rose bush.

Gross, right?  But bear with me here.  I’m getting to the point.

Think back to a song on the radio.  (Do people even still listen to the radio these days???)  I feel like there’s gotta be one of these on every station (minus I suppose Christian stations or something).  You know the one.  The one where the song is so diluted with extra sound effects or areas of so many lyric cuts that you sit there and wonder to yourself, “The fuck?  Why are they even putting this on the radio if it has to be so heavily edited?”  It could be a song you like or a song you hate, and it doesn’t matter, because the whole thing is filtered down to a couple radio-approved words.

You see where I’m going with this?

Here’s the deal.  I’m not saying that fucking-god-damn-shit-ass-cunt should be on the radio.  I’m just saying if you can’t play it in its entirety the way it was meant to be heard, why are you bothering playing it at all?

Same thing goes for any medium: art, writing, films, video games, whatever it may be.  In fact, you may remember a book I reviewed where I had this same complaint.  Tell it like it was meant to be told; show it like it was meant to be shown.

And here’s the trick: if it doesn’t feel right, reword it, reshoot it, redraw it.  It’s a problem that can be solved by camera angles easily, and your audience will marvel at the way you handled the issue.  Don’t slap a censor bar on it and call it a work of art.  It’s not.  It’s (god, dare I say it?) lazy.

Again: If it doesn’t feel right, adjust the camera angle.  If you are writing a romance novel and you want to really convey how much the two people love each other, bring the camera out and up.  Show it in the little extra movements aside from whatever is going on downtown.  You know, where their eyes focus on, where their fingers trace, blah blah blah.  However, if you’re writing porn, dude, exchange that big fancy camera for a cock ring camera (they make those homg they fucking make those what the hell) and just…yeah…let it go to town.  Camera angles.  Not censorship.

Camera angles.

And pan left, and then right, and zoom out – Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com

Now, ready for me to be a huge hypocrite?  Because through the years, I’ve gotten amazing at that.

I watched a movie about a year ago, and two scenes have stuck with me in a squeamish sort of way.  Now usually, I applaud that sort of thing.  Like, okay, my favorite horror movie of all time is Audition, and that thing is absolutely fucked up in so many ways.  It got under my skin, but in a good sort of way.

The movie in question is called mother!, all lowercase and everything (if I remember correctly).

SPOILERS WITHOUT CONTEXT AHEAD

The first scene that fucked me up was a shot of a baby’s neck snapping.  It came out of nowhere, which I’m not saying was a fault necessarily on the movie’s behalf, since the whole thing plays out like a nonsensical dream.  The second scene was an up close and personal view of a woman being beaten almost to death.  This did not come out of nowhere, in fact I had a feeling the movie was leading up to it, but the way they approached it just felt…wrong.

Two things come into play here that I feel made the movie fall flat, because otherwise, honestly, up until that point, I rather enjoyed it.  The first thing is camera angles.  The second is medium.

The same point could have come across without the shock value for the sake of shock value (which is what it came across as, for nothing in the movie was hinting at anything but psychological horror) with the help of camera angles.  You can have the baby get lost in the crowd (alive) and then have the mother find the baby with it head at an odd angle (dead).  The action of the neck snapping doesn’t need to be shown on camera.  The audience can figure it out on their own.

Same for the woman being beaten.  You can get the point across with a shift of camera that doesn’t make it feel like a body horror flick.  Instead of having every punch and kick be up close and personal all the way to the bitter end, fade out and pan up.  Show the crowd circle in above her, covering her, and when it’s done, fade back to her body, once beautiful, now broken. 

Another thing to keep in mind is the medium in which it was brought to life.  Despite what I said, I feel that if it was presented as a book, it would have been just fine as it stands.  What works in one medium won’t necessarily work in another.  Some things don’t translate well from audio to visual to written.  Another example: Stephen King’s It.  In the book, the infamous “child orgy” scene works for a number of reasons: the symbolism, the description, the way the topic is handled.  However, if they tried to put the same scene in the movies, it would not pass the censors, and it would never see the light of day.  What works in one medium won’t necessarily work in another.

Let me back up and say that generally, people dying in horrible ways doesn’t throw me off this hard (in fiction, obviously).  My list of taboos is short by nature.  I’m willing to sacrifice comfort for the sake of a good story (and trust me, there are some scenes in books and movies that are hard to get through).  But maybe that’s what it all boils down to: a damn good story.  In this case, mother! fell short.  It flows through time and space like a dream, a nightmare.  It floats from one event to the next, so when it spirals to dead babies and beaten women, it comes across like less a form of art and more a snuff film.  It felt wrong, like something I wasn’t supposed to watch.  But now I have, and no amount of bleach is going to get those images out of my memory.

But maybe I missed the point altogether and it’s actually a masterpiece.  I don’t know.  What I do know is that I think had camera angles been tweaked just a touch, it could have been spectacular.  Instead, I just feel kind of dirty.

And maybe, just maybe, fuck what I have to say about it. Maybe had those changes been made, it would have missed the point the director was trying to make. Maybe all that snuff film add-ons were necessary to tell the story he needed to tell, unaltered, uncensored, right down to the gory details. Maybe my changes would have dug in elbow-deep to plant a fucking rose bush.

What about you?  What’s your view on censorship in the entertainment industry?  Good?  Bad?  Don’t care either which way?  Let me know!

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here we are now ENTERTAIN US

Ladies and gentlemen of the void!  It’s been a while since a good-ol’ book review, hasn’t it?  I mean, part of it is because of life happening, which, yanno, happens.  But part of it is because of something as simple as this: some books you gotta take your time with.

Enter Prozac Nation.

This lovely piece of nonfiction literature was a trip and a half.  It features a girl who is unforgivingly and unapologetically set in who she is for better or, mostly, for worse.  Her emotions are raw and ugly and so fucking real.

And I couldn’t help but see a little bit of myself in her.

And I hated it.

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The book is a memoir of the young life of Elizabeth Wurtzel, who deals with long bouts of depression that is more often than not absolutely debilitating.  Wurtzel doesn’t waste time trying to romanticize the disease.  Instead, she gets right down to the dirty details of what makes depression such an awful invisible illness.  She dives headfirst into the terrible things she does to those around her, and the equally terrible things those same people do to her.

Every person in the book is a double-edged sword.  Just when you think you might start to like them, SWIGGITY SWOOSHY they slice everything you thought you knew about them away to reveal the monster underneath.  There’s something to take away from that, I think. 

Let me back up a little bit and explain.  Wurtzel, whom I most identify with, has a knack for being what some would call ungrateful.  Hell, you know what?  Wurtzel didn’t sugar-coat a damn thing in this book, so why should I?  I think she was ungrateful for a lot of the things handed to her.  Her mom put her through college, and my student loan debt is envious of that.  She was able to go to London for a few months, and the lack of funds I have is super envious of that.  She got to work somewhere where she wrote for a living and screwed off over half the time, and my life choices are uber envious of that.  Like, the fuck, you have so much going for you that people like me can only dream about; why exactly are you depressed again?

But know what?  That’s some class-A depression right there.  You have a mountain of good but all you can focus on is the grain of bad.  Or you can’t focus on any of it at all.  You just exist, and it’s pointless. 

Double-edged sword.  She is ungrateful, and that makes her unlikeable, but she knows she’s ungrateful, and that makes her relatable.  I can relate to her so hard in all of her seemingly selfish actions and obsessive mind acrobatics. 

ESPECIALLY the obsessive mind acrobatics. 

At one point in the book, she gets herself a boyfriend.  A real, bonafide boyfriend (haha jesus christ) who is more than a one night stand, who is more than a few week fling.  She’s got him, and they go steady together, and when she falls she falls hard and fast.  I can’t judge her for this, mostly out of being in a different but vastly similar situation a time or two.  I used to blame it on being young and stupid, but as I’ve grown into an older, adultier me, I think it’s less to do with being young and more to do with holding onto that one glimmer of happiness so tight your knuckles pierce through the skin (what a fucking image, am I right?).  When you live in the dark for so long, the moment you get a ray of sunshine you chase it down and embrace it until it snuffs out of existence entirely.

Anyway, so they are going steady for a bit, and she tells him all the reasons why he shouldn’t be with her, and he assures her he’s going nowhere.  Same lie that’s been told a million times by billions of people, mind you.  But he’s convinced her illness is a quirk or a phase or adorable or some other atrocity, and she’s convinced he’s going to leave her forever the moment he lets go of her hand (a slight exaggeration, but the point still follows).  She does the crazy girlfriend bit.  You know the kind I’m talking about.  Calling at all hours, showing up unexpectedly under the guise of surprise but everyone knows it’s because she just wants to keep tabs on him, getting lost in a whirlwind of negative thoughts about him and herself.  It’s crazy.  She knows she’s acting crazy.  But the whole thing is compulsion; she just can’t stop herself.

And the more you try not to act crazy, the more crazy you act – Photo by Jonathan Andrew on Pexels.com

I can relate to the same degree of obsessive compulsive behavior.  Like I said, different situation, but same general idea.  High school was a lonely, confusing time for me, and so I latched onto my best friend like she was a lifeline.  At the time, I think she was more mine than I hers, and I don’t think it had much to do with her not liking me and more to do with I was smothering her.  I won’t go into specifics on that, but I will say that one particularly bad day when I was left alone with my thoughts and my mind went dark, I called her house at least twelve times.  This was before everyone had cell phones, so it was the landline, and her parents were home.  A few times, her mother picked up, and assured me she would have her call me just as soon as she woke up.  But another hour would go by, and I’d ring the line again, and again, and again.  It was stupid.  It was crazy.  I knew it was crazy.  But I kept doing it anyway.

Mental health is kind of funny that way.

Prozac Nation was an all around good book, but one that required lots of breaks in between the pages.  That has nothing to do with the readability of it I don’t think.  It all flowed well, and it held my interest from the first page to the last.  I can only handle so much truth in one sitting.  Overall, I loved it.  It’s the best book about depression I’ve read to date.  It gets a solid 10/10 for me.

So, question time: Have you ever read a book you had to put down because it was too close to home?

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Manda and the Adventures of a Lifetime (or 2019: Go Big or Go the Fuck to Sleep)

Hey there, void.  It’s ya girl.

You may have noticed that I skipped out on the last bi-weekly post.  And you may have noticed that I came back expecting to be accepted back into your mobile devices with open arms.  I have a reason for skipping.  And it’s a good one, too.  But, because I want to keep you suspense (and because I want you to read about the my awesome year and explain why things are going to slow down for a while) I’m going to wait until the very end of this post to tell you.  You could cheat and scroll all the way down, but just…just don’t.  Okay?  Deal?

Sweet.

Let’s look at my past year in list form!  Woot!

  • January
    Made our first big purchase as a couple. We got a couch and an oversized chair that is a bit too big for our apartment living room, but it was a huge upgrade from the couch we got for free from another random tenant we didn’t know, so bonus.
  • February
    Went to see Panic! at the Disco with my bestie. We stood in line for what felt like a century and missed the first act of the night, but it was worth it for band merch. Our seats were high up in the air, so a little bit scary for a scurred little thing such as myself, but damn is it ever amazing how quickly you forget that one slight misstep will lead to your imminent doom when the show started. Awesome show all the way around.
  • March
    Cool writing things month. I submitted the first chapter of my novel for a writing contest. I did not win, but I did find a few people who liked it and wanted to see more. I also submitted a short mobile-based story to an app called Peek’d. It was by no means my best work, and I did not have high hopes for it, but it did win first place!
  • April
    Celebrated our 10th anniversary by going out of town and staying in a hotel and doing basically nothing. I think the only time we left the place was to go to the Squirrel Cage Jail in Council Bluffs (10/10 recommend whether you’re ghost enthusiast such as myself or a history buff or just if you want to see something as unique as a rotating prison).
  • May
    Ren Fair with my girls. This time around I was a plague doctor and walked around with a balloon that said ‘Get Well Soon.’ Plus, I got to watch a hilarious rendition of Hamlet my bestie was in, including a perfectly-timed prop mishap involving a tombstone, wind, and a conveniently placed dead Ophelia. Everyone stayed in character, and me and my group died. Luckily I was there to save us. Yanno…with the balloon…eh? Eh?!? Eh…
  • June
    Game Grumps Live, babyyy! We got VIP tickets, so some extra merch and early entry, which is good and all, but the part I was most excited for was the preshow where Dan and Arin came out and did a little Q&A with the crowd. The show itself is great, but the casual style of the beginning won me over. Sadly, Dan did not notice my Ghost shirt. In retrospect, that’s probably a good thing? If he did, I don’t think I would have known what to say back, and I embarrass myself enough without the help of people I admire, thank you very much.
  • July
    Vegas trip with the girls. If I had to pick my favorite part, it would be the late night adventures we went on, buzzed and getting more lost by the second. It’s fun walking through the expensive ritzy areas and peeking through the shop windows without the expensive ritzy people rolling their eyes at you. I’ve been to Vegas a few times already, but it’s a completely different experience going with work friends as opposed to going with your significant other. Definitely a higher chance of getting into trouble. 😉
  • August
    It’s not very often a rock band comes into town from the big city, so when I heard that Trapt was going to do a show, I was all over that. I brushed up on all their songs, got all beautified with a fresh side shave, and practically ran to the front of the stage. And I got to say, after seeing them live…I liked the opener bands better. There was some technical issues with the equipment so the sound kept cutting out and I guess everyone was getting feedback in their speakers, but I think it’s all in how you handle it. The more local bands brushed it off and had a good time. The lead singer of Trapt was kind of douchy, as in yelling at the stagehands while they tried to fix the audio. I get it. It must have been frustrating. But cussing out your help is no way to win over your fans. Fuck that noise. I don’t consider this necessarily a highlight of the year, but it was a thing, so there’s that. Can win them all.
  • September
    It Chapter Two came out in theaters. I saw it three times. For some reason I don’t own the physical copy yet even though it came out before Christmas? Eh, I’ll fix that soon enough. I think the second installment gets too much flack. While it’s not as scary as the first one, I don’t think it was meant to be. The Loser’s Club is all grown up now, and so their fears have evolved into normal grown-up fears having everything to do with abandonment and acceptance and nothing to do with fucked up flute lady and general clown nonsense. It was great. Richie crying at the end gets me every fucking time. Ugh the tears were real. Also, I took my sister out for her birthday and got her wasted. We could have gotten into some awesome trouble, but her husband met us and killed our vibe. Lamesauce. But a fun night all the same.
  • October
    Wanna talk about a busy month? The first week, I took my mama to Denver to meet Joe Hill in person. I detail the experience in my post here. Couple weeks later, my boyfriend and I went to see Starset. For this one, we also did VIP, which included food, merch, an acoustic show where I played hide-and-seek with the drummer for a bit, and a photo with the band. Seeing them was just what we needed after the atrocity that was Trapt. If you ever have the chance to see them in concert, do it. VIP? Do it even more. It’s cheap for VIP, and there’s so much involved with it. The band is amazingly nice, and they have a doggo, so win. The last week of October, I celebrated my 30th with a Death Day celebration, a funeral for my 20s if you will. Immediately after that, I headed to the bestie’s for a couple days and saw Phantom of the Opera for the third time in my life. I’ve gotta say, every time I see it, it gets better. I was in tears when we left I was so happy. That show has and always will be my favorite, and I can’t wait to see it again.
  • November
    Viva Las Vegas, yo! This time, I went with my boyfriend. While we were there, we went to SEMA (moreso his thing than mine) and to Lost Vegas at the Neon Museum (moreso my thing than his). And, of course, there was a hell of a lot of gambling. Gotta get it out of my system while I can, yo. We came out of it with a load of free shit and a good chunk of money left over. Highlight: Seeing a life-sized Robot Boy. I have the miniature version of him and I love him. J
  • December
    Other than general holiday-ness going on, I got to spend a brief while with the bestie to have a nice little gift exchange and a lot of naps. ❤
So many cool things!!

2019 was absolutely amazing, and freakishly busy. You may be wondering, “Manda, that’s cool and all, but where is the reason for not posting? Where is the reason for the hectic?” Well, void, I have some news. Firstly, we are in the process of getting a loan to get a house, which is a lot of paperwork and a lot more stress. This is HUGE. It’ll be our first house and our first joint-loan. It’s kind of a special situation—I won’t get into the details right now—so we’ve been packing and cleaning both our apartment and the new place whenever we’ve had a spare moment between work and talking to the bank.

So freaking manyyy!!!

Secondly, as of the 23rd of December, I am engaged! After ten years of dating, we are official! We are going to take the whole marriage thing kinda slow because of the whole house situation, so we are looking at 2021 tentatively for a date. Rest assure, I’ll probably post updates here and there in between book reviews and other general nonsense.

It’s so shiny 🙂

So, there you have it.  2019, you were fun while you lasted.  Lots of ups and plenty of downs.  A few joyful hellos and a handful of heart-breaking goodbyes.

How was your year?  Did you float on through or did you hold on by your teeth?  Any advice for a new home owner and bride-to-be???  Leave a comment and let me know!!

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Manda and the Time She Made Some Stupid Resolutions (and some cool ones too)

The year is almost over.  The time for that final push is almost over.  Resolutions are about to become failures.  Let’s all point and laugh together, shall we?

Or lack thereof – Photo by Breakingpic on Pexels.com
  • Losing ten pounds: This could still happen, or it could not still happen.  The furthest I made it was six.  And then I went on vacation basically all the month of October, and it got back up there again.  But in the past week, I’ve lost three pounds.  So there’s that.  Just seven more pounds to go.  Ugh.  It probably won’t happen.  But I’m not about to give up the lifestyle.  Not fail, but not win.  You feel me?
  • Keep to writing and cleaning schedule: What I’ve learned from this is that I can indeed keep to a schedule.  What I also learned is that when I fill up my schedule so much, when something unexpected happens, I have zero time for it.  Then I’m staying up until three in the morning so I can cross off an item.  So this past month, I’ve changed things up and given myself less to do every week.  House has still stayed clean, and writings have still been written, both plus some.  I need to stop expecting so much of myself.  Give myself a break, yo.  Check in the win category, though.
  • Take a day every couple of weeks to do absolutely nothing:  This has been on the decline by a lot.  I can’t pinpoint when exactly it happened, but it’s definitely not there now.  Bad job.  Fail on all levels.
  • Go on more dates:  Like last time, it’s not in the traditional sense.  We spend time together Sunday nights and eat something new and watch tv.  HOWEVER!  That may soon change come next year.  More on that later.  😉  Win, btw.
  • Do more social networking for writing and less for personal:  I rule at this.  For the most part.  I have everything on a queue, so I do a bunch in a day and then I’m covered for the month.  I’ve been working on interacting on posts to get new followers and sell some stories, but it’s still some pretty new territory for me, and honestly a little uncomfortable and pushy-feeling for me.  I think once I have something worth pushing, though, I’ll be more apt to do it.
  • Be more involved with family and keep track of birthdays:  It’s been a while since we’ve done a dinner as a family.  It’s a mixture of some funky schedules and some tension between certain members.  Good ol’ family drama, ya know?  But things are finally starting to smooth over, so here soon, it’ll get better.  It can only go up from here.  As for birthdays, I’m awesome at blowing up phones with nonsensical birthday raps.  It’s definitely in the win category.
  • Pay off credit cards and car loan:  Fuuuuuuuuuck.  It’s going down.  I don’t know if it will be paid off by the end of the year, but it will be close.  Both will be close.  But ultimately, it is a fail on my part.  A big, fat fail.  I’m only a little salty about it.
  • Go out of town to see friends more often just because:  Since the last update, I did go up to see them on a random three day weekend I got.  It was some much needed bitching time, with some booze and Mexican food in there for good measure.  I want more days like this.  I’ll call it a stalemate.  It wasn’t great, but it wasn’t the worst, either.
  • Take Jax (old grumpo) to good doggo classes:  I didn’t do it.  I’ve had the entire year and did not once set foot into a good doggo class.  HOWEVER.  What I did do is have my sister show me how to make him behave.  Eh, let me take that back.  She showed me how to be assertive with him, how to raise my voice when he’s acting up.  Is he the perfect, most well-behaved dog?  Of course not.  But it has made a difference.  He listens better than what he did in the past.  Plus, there’s plans for him to meet some other animals in the works to put his listening skills to the test.  If I had it my way, we would have done it already, but damn, dude.  Everyone is so damn busy.  At the end of the day, though, Jax being bossed around by my sister isn’t the same as going to an actual dog obedience class.  Another fail.
  • Take doggos for more walks:  Almost every week when it’s not freezing or otherwise crappy outside, we’ve gone for a walk.  Sometimes we travel for a nice long walk, but most times I take them separately around the block.  Not only does it get more steps in for me, but it’s easier to control them when they are apart, which makes for a nicer walk for all of us.  Plus, they are better behaved when they don’t have each other to feed off of.  Winner winner.
  • Declutter digital and physical files:  I have the same old file cabinet (you know, because of the credit card thing), but the inside is anything but the same.  Folks, it is cleaned out.  It is organized.  It makes my little neat-freak heart so damn happy.  Digital files have kept clean for the most part.  I don’t go through them as often as I should, but it wouldn’t take more than ten minutes to get through it all.  That’s way better than the thousands it was before.  Winning.
  • Locate my self-esteem:  You know what?  It comes and goes.  It’s like day and night.  It’ll pop up and stay for a week or two, then be lost for several days, until I pick it up and dust it off and repeat the process all over again.  No, I’ll take that back.  What this is about is self-esteem.  What I’m talking about is depression.  Not the same thing.  No, okay, I think I’m better about this for the most part.  Most days, I know my worth and I know I’m a hot piece (oh god please don’t take me too serious).  But you know what I mean.  I know I’m smart and I’m good at what I do (not necessarily writing, yo) and I have good qualities about myself.  I’m loving and caring.  I’m empathetic.  I’m a great listener.  And typing this all out feels awkward, so just take my word for it that I know what I’m about.  Win.

All in all, it’s not horrible. I’m at 7/12 for resolution success.  I don’t think I’ll check in again with this one, but I miiiight let you all know what my plans are for 2020.  Ya know.  So you can laugh while I fail some more.  It’s cool.  Builds character.

So.  How did your resolutions go? 

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Stranger Than You Dreamt It

If you thought I was done gushing about Joe Hill, hooboy were you wrong.  I finally got around to reading Strange Weather, a book composed of four different stories, and I just…

Damn, dude.

That cover art is so bad ass, too – https://www.instagram.com/p/B4svFOOACAP/

Let’s get this started.

So first off, this is my first signed copy of one of his books. It stayed in a curio cabinet where I had the beginnings of a collection going (Stephen King’s End of Watch among the small stack that has since grown). I was not one of the lucky few who had a doodle sketched by his name, but it’s still special to me nevertheless.

And now I need more – https://www.instagram.com/p/B4svZrygVLA/

The book is comprised of four shorts, each one taking place in a different season, and I use season loosely here.  Each has its own tone, its own quasi sort of personality.  It’ll leave you feeling scared of the unknown, then terrified of the world we live in.  It’ll bring you up to the top of the clouds, then plummet you back to the world below without anything to break your fall but the cold, hard ground.

Friends.  I loved this book.

The first story, Snapshot, follows a boy who after a brief altercation, has to watch his back against the man with the weird camera that snaps pictures of the past by sucking up memories. Hill has terror down to an art. I haven’t been so scared to turn the page since I read Heart-Shaped Box, another goodie written by Joe Hill. And god, the ending! A beautiful twist to an otherwise frightening tale.

American productivity would nearly double if everyone were free to work pantsless. Words to live by.

Things take a turn in Loaded, when a terrorist attack isn’t all it appears to be.  It was a total edge-of-your seat thriller where the villains are in the wrong place at the wrong time and the heroes have their own agenda.  The story is not for the faint of heart.  There is no happy ending, but like real life, there will be no happy ending until a solution to mass shootings is found one way or the other.

The third short, Aloft, plays with the question we’ve all had at one point in our lives or another: What if we could walk on clouds?  A young man—unwillingly—finds out that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be after a sky-diving accident.  He’s stuck a few miles in the air, and the only way off this ride is a suicidal jump to the surface.  Freezing, starving, and oh so thirsty, will he have the courage to find a way out?

Rain takes place at the beginning of a dystopian future, where rain falls from the sky as long, sharp crystals that tear families apart—both figuratively and literally.  A young woman’s girlfriend is torn to pieces by the needles right before her eyes, and she is determined not to let the loss break her.  She must find a way to survive this new world and the anarchy around her.

What can I say?  Each story had strong characters that you wanted to either watch succeed or witness their ultimate demise.  The thought-provoking themes forced you to put the book down and process what you just read before moving on to the next.  Some collections of short stories stay with you for a moment before floating on by, out of sight, out of mind.  The collection in Strange Weather, however, stick.  And yeah, it could be because there are only four stories in there, but I take into account that I finished this book almost a month ago before having the time to sit down and write out something other than word vomit (which this probably still is let’s be fair here), and I still remember what I read.  I still remember how each story made me feel.  That’s some good writing there.

All in all, I’d give this collection 10/10.  Snapshot was hands down my favorite; I’m a sucker for supernatural horror.  It was a damn fun ride, and I can’t wait to read his next collection (also sitting in the curio cabinet). 

Have you read Strange Weather?  Which one was your favorite?

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Manda Kay and the Time She Met Joe Hill

God fucking damnit I wish I wasn’t an anxious mess 90% of the time.

Let me back up.

I like to think of myself as a chill person.  Easygoing.  Friendly.  You know the type.  I aspire to be a stoner without the stoning.  Feel me?  And I feel like I am.  It’s just on the outside, though.  I internalize every anxiety I have until it becomes less “chill” and more “complete shut down.”  Just don’t pay attention to what my hands are doing, and I’ll have you fooled.

Introverting at its finest, I suppose?

Fast forward.

I was browsing though Facebook one day only to see that Joe Hill was doing a book tour, and he would be coming to Denver, which is several hops, skips, and jumps away, but definitely doable.  It was going to be for October, so I went through the moral dilemma of taking basically the entire month off work.  But, eventually, as I always do, I got over it and ordered the tickets anyway.

Side note: I totally have a good work ethic, I promise.  I’m just happiest when I’m not there.  😉

Anyway, fast forward a few more, get to Denver with my mama, who is a retired reader, aka she used to read all the time but now she does not unless it’s something I wrote, aka she’s the reason that I read, aka I’m not using “aka” correctly. The point is she went with me even though she was busy, and even though it wasn’t her thing. That’s a good mom right there. I’ll forever be grateful for her.

She’s too good to me

Seating was first come first serve, so we got there a couple hours early to get a good spot.  Then we waited.  And waited.  And waited.  Which I was fine with.  She was not so much.  She suffers from a bad back and the world’s smallest bladder.  It’s true.  Check the world record manuals.  I’ll wait.

Actually don’t.  I’m lying.  Probably.  😉

So we wait a bit, she talks to some people near us, and I go into silent and stoic mode, carefully planning in advance what I will say when he signs my book the same way I plan how I order my food in drive-thru.  I absorb the environment.

And go a little bit empty.

About that time, the event is about to start, and my mom jabs me in the side.

“That was him!  He walked right by you!”

“Hmm?”

“That was Joe!”

Cue anxiety.

“Oh my god I didn’t even pay any attention.”

“I didn’t think you noticed.”

“Nope, nope, nope.  I did not.”

So I sit there and can physically feel my eyeballs get huge and dry, and for a while I forget that blinking is a thing. My contacts hated me for it, but at that moment, I didn’t care. And in that moment, I wonder why I do these things to begin with. People in general scare me. People I admire are terrifying. But there’s one of two ways this can go. I can have myself a good old-fashion breakdown right there in the middle of the bookstore. Or I can plant my feet on the ground and white knuckle something until it’s all over.

Anxiety take the wheeeeeeeel

In this case, I hold onto the book like a lifeline.

If it seems overdramatic, it’s because it probably is, but if you have anxiety, it’ll probably seem familiar.

Moving on, though. He comes out and seems just as chill as everyone says he is. He read a bit from a story, then opened the floor for questions. It’s a pretty standard book reading, from what I can tell. Not that I’ve been to a whole lot in my life, but eh, pretty straightforward of a thing. It’ll sound stupid, but I was enamored by him, not just because he’s a great author and someone I look up to, but because he was a real person. He was down to earth and funny and (I imagine) easy to talk to. Super friendly dude.

Always gotta appreciate a guy who shows up in screen print

So, his bit gets done, and it’s time to go up there and get books signed.  Before our row goes up, I look at my mom and inform her that…welp…

“I’m gunna go mute for a bit.”

“What?”

“I’m going to be mute. I’m not going to talk. I’m going to forget how.”

“Starstruck?”

“I don’t know.  Maybe a little?  But mostly nerves making my voice not work.  I’ll just stare and then leave.  Blah.”

“No you won’t.  I’ll go up with you and do the talking for you.”

Ladies and gents, I love my mama. We walked up together, he signed both our books, we got a picture, and went home happy.

He makes us look smol, but rest assure, we are quite tol

Which is partially true.

When my mom talked to him, she told him she wanted him to write something very specific.  He’s on board, he’s chill, he’s like, alright, whatcha got for me?

“I want you to write: To Peggy, wonderful mother of daughter, Amanda, fantastic grandmother to her amazing grandchildren, total mother of the year, and now I’m done writing this and my hand has a cramp.”

And then and then and then

He looked up at her confused.  I looked at her mortified.  And she bust up laughing and tells him she was joking.

“People always ask me what scares me most.”

“People like me,” my mom responds.

I’m not sure if you can fully appreciate the amount of mortified I was here

She got a kick out of the whole thing.  Joe took it like a champ and didn’t roll his eyes.  That’s a win in my book.  ❤

Out of the whole experience, I took away a couple things.  For one, I can’t give up writing.  I’m probably never going to be at the level that he is, but I’m not going to get any better if I don’t keep trying. (Side note: I swear the creative writing stuff is better than the word vomit that happens here.) (For realsies.) (I have some stuff on Amazon if you wanna test me on that.) (Wink wonk.)  For two, I need to get some self confidence and learn how to overcome the weird stage-fright I have.  I swore to my mom that next time, next book signing, I was going to try to ask something during the Q&A, and that I will talk to him, even if it’s forced and awkward small talk, if I ever again get the chance.

BONUS VIDEOS

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Have you ever gone to a Joe Hill event? If so, what did you think? Did you talk to him? Tell me your secrets.

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My Sin, My Soul

Sometimes, you don’t just come across a book as much as it’s thrown your way in disgust and beauty and intrigue, and every time it comes close, you step to the side and let it bounce on by for the next person to deal with.  I don’t know if it was lack of time or desire that made me shrug off Lolita.  I would say the sketchy subject matter scared me away, but I’m far from the type to shy away from heavy subject matter, and even less the type to give up on a story because of a revolting narrator.

Let me come clean.

I didn’t just happen upon this in a book store. I wasn’t lead by a friend or colleague in the natural sense that most people find their next novel. I was directed to Lolita by none other than Pewdiepie, in one of those rare book club videos. Yup, that’s right, folks. I’m a nine-year-old. Fight me. (But don’t, seriously, because I am but a weak almost 30 year old who doesn’t know how to fight and conflict makes me feel icky.)

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The point is I knew Lolita existed, but I never cared enough to read it.  And now, after the last page, I wish I had read it sooner.  Or if not sooner, I wish I had read it with a group so I could talk about it with someone and hear other’s thoughts about it as a whole.  And since my book club doesn’t read the same book, I’m just here shouting to the void about this.

That’s you.

You’re the void.

Love you 😉

I’m getting off track, and I’m not even sure if I was on track to begin with.

I think the one thing I said to every person I told about this book is that it is one of the most horrible things I’ve ever read, but it’s written in such a way that it’s beautiful.  It’s poetic.  The words flow like a sick, twisted lullaby. 
It’s a sick man’s love story, in a sick way.

The narrator, “Humbert Humbert,” is as unreliable as they come, but damn does he weave some attractive lies.  Every bit of it is poetic.  He refuses to curse in the majority of the book, and I find it…oh, not ironic, but…odd, given the atrocious things he does to Delores.  He’ll touch little kids, but Lord forbid he say anything about blowjobs.  Aristocratic.  That’s a good word to describe him.  Snobbish.  That’s another one.  Narcissistic. That’s even better yet.  He’s full of himself, but the way he words his thoughts makes him likeable.

The reader really gets a sense of who the main character is, and even if he writes under an alias, he is unapologetically himself.  It makes him feel real, you know what I’m saying?  He doesn’t feel like some throwaway character for plot’s sake.  H. Humbert is a real, living, breathing person, and how well he is written is both captivating and terrifying. 

I.  Loved.  This.  Book.

So, the unreliability.  Let’s touch on that.

H. Humbert is a lot of things, but humble is not one of them.  He is supposedly a good-looking man, and knows as much.  Women fall at his feet everywhere he goes.  Especially women who are well out of his league, him being the better off, of course.  And Delores, his dear Lolita, hoo-boy.  He was a hot knife, and she was butter (you like that comparison?).  She was a squeaky door, and he was a can of WD-40 (yeah that’s right they get worse).  He’s a cunning, sly man who has everyone playing in the palm of his hand.

Or is he?

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Humbert’s first wife cheated on him with another man, likely because of his superiority complex (and the whole slapping her around thing).  His second wife, while enamored with his looks, inevitably saw him for who he was, and things fell apart from there.  I’m not saying that he’s not a looker.  I’m just saying maybe he’s not as smooth as he thinks he is.  His version of his attractive self isn’t necessarily the version that everyone else sees.  As for Delores, he has the reader believing that she is just as in love with him as ever, that is, up until the end, where it’s revealed that perhaps he took advantage of her more often than not.  He admits to feeling bad about this, but he would go to embrace her and attempt to right all his wrongs, but soon enough he’d be right back at it again whether she wanted to or not.

That’s rape, folks, and not just the statutory kind.

The final point I’ll leave up in the air, mainly because I don’t want to give anything major away.  All I’ll say about it is not everyone is quite who they seem, and honestly, the brute isn’t as smart as he thinks he is.

But damn, if it isn’t a fun ride along the way.

All in all, Lolita is about a bad man who does some bad things, but he does them oh so good.  It’s a terrible subject matter, but it’s written in such a way that is tasteful.  If you’re looking for graphic sex scenes, first of all, that’s gross she’s like a baby, and second of all, this isn’t the book for you.  If you’re looking for an in-depth character analysis on how fucked up a guy can get, and a glimpse of how the mind of a pedophile works, you came to the right bookstore, sir. 

Ugh, that’s the thing, though, isn’t it?  It’s a messed up book, and we aren’t supposed to like those things because apparently that, in turn, makes us messed up, yeah?  A sort of promotion of bad things.  Yeah?

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Fuck that.

That’s the beauty of fiction.  Hell, that’s the beauty of art in general.  We read books about pedophiles.  We watch movies with graphic violence.  We purchase art of…asdfghjk; insert vile act here, am I right?  And that’s the thing of it.  It’s fake.  It’s make-believe.  It exists, but it also doesn’t exist.  You feel me on that?  Just because I couldn’t put that book down doesn’t mean in any way shape or form that I think what the character did was okay or justified or anything of the sort.  Just because you watched all the sexy/rape-y glory of Game of Thrones doesn’t mean you think any of it was an alright thing to do.  And hey, just because that basic bitch loved Fifty Shades doesn’t mean she’s an advocate for…what…sexual abuse or some shit?  It doesn’t.  That’s art, folks.  If it’s not making you uncomfortable, what’s the point?

And now, I turn it over to you, the void in which I scream into.  What’s the most fucked-up, depraved thing you’ve ever read or watched?  

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Perfect Imperfection

Have you ever powered through a string of books that felt meh and slow and ultimately unsatisfied, and then you get one that you read in less than a week that captivates you from the first chapter and keeps you at the literal edge of your seat (chairs in the break room are very uncomfortable) (gotta change up the weight on the ass fat or it goes numb) (tmi?) until the very end?

Asking for a friend.

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This time around, The Perfect Child graced my inbox in the form of a free e-book from Kindle.  Written by Lucinda Berry, a trauma psychologist, it takes us through the day-to-day of a couple who decide to adopt a child who is just a little bit more than what they bargained for.  And by “a little,” I of course mean “a lot.”  Let’s be honest, there wouldn’t be a lot for me to asdfghjkl; about otherwise.

Are you ready for the shortest, most vague review ever?  Because I don’t want to spoil a thing.

This book switches between three points-of-view: Chris, Holly, and Piper, as they retell their experience with a little girl named Janie.  Janie is first found in a parking lot, where she is taken to the hospital Chris and Holly work for care, and they fall in love with her for moment one.  But not everything is as it seems.  As the story draws to an end, the truth behind Janie’s past is revealed, and nothing will ever be the same again.

And that’s it.  That’s the most direct I’m going to be with this thing, because honestly, the book is a rollercoaster, and it should be experienced as such.  Hell, the blurb itself is vague, which could be seen as both a good and a bad thing, as is evident on the reviews.  Of the ones that I read, most all negative feedback revolves around the idea that the reader didn’t know what they were in for, and there were scenes that were hard for them to get through.  I didn’t find one that insulted the author’s writing style or anything of that nature (which doesn’t mean there isn’t one lurking there, I just didn’t care enough to dig when I disagreed with what they were saying).

One thing I will draw attention to is the cover, just so if you decide to read it, you aren’t thrown off.

Look at that hand holding the balloon.  Look at it.

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Is there anything about that hand that says teary-eyed drama?  Is there anything about that hand that says feel-good love story?  Is there anything about that hand that suggests the story is soft in any way, shape, or form?

No.

That hand, ladies and gentlemen, is a claw: all joints and nails, grasping at something that should be handled with care, unless you want it to pop.

That hand is the whole reason why I chose this book, and damn, am I ever glad I did.

On the whole, I would be as bold as to give The Perfect Child a solid 9 out of 10.  My only criticism is I wish there was more to the ending.  I am a fan of learning more about Janie’s past, yo.

What’s a book that’s taken you by surprise?

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Book Club Event: Take One

Who says you can’t have a book club where you don’t read the same book and discuss it?

Lots.  Lots of people say this.  And they’ve got a point there, but here we are anyway.

For those of you who don’t know, I “run” a book club on the basis of everyone reads whatever they feel and we meet up sometimes.  I say “run” because things aren’t going exactly like I planned.  But that’s part of the fun with starting something new, right?

Just to recap, I started this club just to start discussions in general about reading, and for everyone to meet up once every few months for something fun.  So far, I do most of the talking on the Facebook group, and maybe a quarter of the people who are in the group are able to go to the event.  The club isn’t quite taking off like I hoped for a variety of reasons.  Mainly, everyone is super busy with their own life—myself included.  Also, there’s the issue of discussion: what do we talk about?  I had some ideas in my last post about the club, but I haven’t put them into practice.

My hope is that with this meet-up that it’ll rekindle some interest and get people excited about reading again!

So, without further adieu, I bring you: Bad Tinder Date.

What you do is you take a book you’ve read that you hate, and you gift it to someone else.  Inside the book, you include a breakup letter to it wherever you stopped reading.  So, if you stopped within the first few pages, put it there.  If you suffered all the way through, put it at the back.  In the letter, you write why you hated it.  What did it do wrong?  What made you stop?  Or, if you finished it, like I did, why did you keep going?

Here is my book and breakup letter:

This book…
Absolutely terrible…

And I folded it up into a little heart for an added touch:

Sorry Dean Koontz :/

Obviously, you picked up the book for some reason. And you don’t want to spoil the surprise for the next person who reads it. So what you do is you give it the best profile picture ever; AKA, wrap it all pretty-like:

At least you clean up nice?

What’s a good Tinder profile without a blip to tell the people who you are? On the paper (or a separate tag, if you want to get fancy), write out the book’s best characteristics. “But Manda,” you might be asking, “I hated this book. What could I possibly say?” First rule: Don’t lie. Second rule: You can never embellish enough. Here’s what I wrote for mine:

Tell me liiiies tell me sweet little liiiiiies…….white liiiiiiiies……..

And the finished product:::

Daaaamn Chad you lookin fiiiiine

Damn, that book be looking its best!

To convince everyone to put some effort into their dates, I decided to do prizes for three categories:

  • Your Body is a Ten but Then You Opened Your Mouth (or best wrapping job)
  • Your Resume Said “Sanitation Engineer,” I Didn’t Think You Meant “Trash Boy” (or best profile blip)
  • It’s Not Me, It’s You (or best breakup letter)

And that’s it!  We’ll see how it goes.  I’m excited to see what everyone else comes up with.  When I know, I’ll let you know.  😉

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We’re Not Okay

Sometimes a book takes you by surprise.  The pages speak to you, laying everything out and leaving nothing unturned.  You read, and you have to take breaks in between because there is so much familiarity that it’s dizzying.  It speaks your truth, unabridged and unfiltered.

That’s what this book was for me.

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I’m Fine and Neither Are You.  This one was another freebie from Amazon Prime.  To be honest, I didn’t read the description when I chose it.  I liked the title.  To me, it captured the theme of depression.  I feel like a lot of the time, people who are going through some stuff will say that they are just fine when really, they are so far from it.  A+ on that title game.

I only had one issue with the book, and it’s a little complicated.  I didn’t like the way it was written.

Let me back that up.

I think it was written the best way it could be POV-wise.  Third person wouldn’t do well to show the raw emotion the main character, Penny, goes through at the loss of her best friend.  It just wouldn’t be the same story.  I don’t think there was too much dialogue, and I think the pacing was good.  It was fine for what it had to offer.  My main problem lies in the fact that I did not like Penny very much as a character, and a big part of that is unfair to say on my part, because my reasoning isn’t a solid problem with the author’s (Camille Pagán, btw) writing style or voice or some editing issues or anything like that.

I didn’t like Penny because I saw a lot of myself in her.  And as everyone who knows me would tell you, no one hates me more than me (sometimes I’m joking sometimes I’m not but it is what it is).  So to see my own thoughts and worries and keeping to ridiculous expectations and losing battles just trying to keep the peace was, to me, disgusting.  Vulgar, even.  Problems I’m having in my own life are just laying there in print (or pixels if you wanna get technical on me) (pretty sure you can buy a physical copy of it, though) for the world to see.  Make sense?

Like looking in a mirror and I don’t like it – Photo by Lisa Fotios on Pexels.com

That being said, while I hated the main character, I think she was well written.  I think the pacing of her mind in any given situation is right on par for what a real person (ahem, me) would be thinking.  Her insecurities and pushing boundaries and inherent need to get out of her current life are believable, and let’s be honest here, believability of a character is one of, if not the most, important element of a story.  I think it’s important to keep in mind that you don’t have to like the protagonist.  In fact, I think a semi-unlikeable protagonist is better than one everyone loves, if only because their character is usually more complex, and as a result, more interesting.  While I did not like Penny, she definitely piqued my interest.

Okay case closed we get it we get it.

There’s one more point I wanted to touch on briefly before closing this one out (minor spoiler alert):

Suicide.  Suicide and how it effects the ones around us.  Suicide and how hard it is to be upfront with what happened and how hard it is to cover it up.  While there is no real way of knowing whether or not Penny’s friend’s death was premeditated or just a bad mistake, it doesn’t change the outcome.  It leaves so many questions unanswered for the ones left behind, and it’s not fair for them.

I read this book when I was at a bit of a low point.  I was dealing with issues at work and at home and myself.  I was overwhelmed with the need to run away from everyone by any means necessary.  I don’t know if I meant to go down the road of considering self-harm yet, but left unchecked, I would have.  Life can get overwhelming when you set such a high standard for yourself, and if you’re left in your head for too long, things get messy.  It’s hard to explain what you need or the logic of your thoughts to anyone else, because that’s a mystery even to you.

I’m not going to say that this book saved me.  That would be a blatant lie.  But it did get my mind turning in a different direction.  Seeing my thoughts coming from a book from a stranger was a weird, tough love sort of eye opener.

Confused?  It’s okay.  Me too.

Overall, this book hit home in a lot of different ways.  It’s one that I’ll likely read again when I’m in a better place emotionally, namely to see if my opinion of Penny has changed at all.  I give the book a 7/10.  I give Penny a -5/10.  Just don’t like her, yo.

Have you ever read a book that you liked, even though you didn’t care for the protagonist?